Social Wellness Month is dedicated to emphasizing the importance of nurturing and maintaining healthy relationships and social connections. It encourages individuals to engage in activities that promote social interaction, community involvement, and a sense of belonging.
Ah! Who is better to report on their social health than a very introverted extrovert? Ever heard of one? Are you one? If so, take a gander at how I balance my introverted-extroverted self. It feels comical.
I’d like to think the scale tipped more towards extroverted for me pre-COVID. My hubs and I went to dinner several times a month with friends here and there. We attended music nights out on the patio of our favorite haunts, listened to bands in small ‘holes in the walls’, and visited friends. I felt confident in my appearance even though perimenopause began sneaking in. I NEVER would’ve left the house without makeup, and undone hair. My identity was in my outward appearances – I had lash extensions, received Botox as needed, was highlighting my hair, and my nails and piggies were done twice monthly.
During most of my adult life, being an introverted extrovert meant expanding myself amongst humans, I needed to recharge. This was normally at the gym, hitting the pavement, or reading. My hubby knew when I was recharging and respected that I’d be my ‘fun-loving’ self once my battery filled up.
And then, COVID.
Quarantine was the perfect storm for me. My identity took on a whole new role. My lash extensions dwindled until only 1 lone lash extension hung on for at least 10 days (my lashes looked like they had mange). I began wearing makeup less than I ever had as did my entire neighborhood. This freed me from so many things that I thought defined me. I had so! Much! Fun!
Work was busier than it had ever been (I’m a Mortgage Loan Officer) when the housing market rocketed and we were stuck working from home = no makeup, hair in a bun, and yoga pants daily. I relished the freedom.
This continued through half of 2022 – almost 2.5 years on repeat. And my introverted side loved every minute of it. Until I realized – ok wait, each time I’d have to attend a meeting or go to the office my blood pressure rose, my stomach hurt, and I’d find reasons not to attend. I noticed I’d turned down many dinner dates, and social gatherings. I hid in my closet to read anytime I had a minute to myself (which was a lot because we became empty-nesters during this time). I was in an introverted rut.
Can you relate?
I believe we are biblically created for social settings and social wellness. It has always been put on my priority list. While it is good to use social media to keep up with the daily lives of people around you, it cannot replace hugging your friend, having a cup of coffee with your relative, or visiting someone you love.
Social health consists of a few parts that together make us happier humans:
Strong social ties are linked to lower rates of anxiety, depression, and stress. Interacting with others provides emotional support and helps combat feelings of loneliness and isolation. It is worth putting on that regular bra and some lipstick and getting out for our mental health.
People with robust social networks tend to have better immune function, lower blood pressure, and reduced risk of chronic diseases. Social interactions can encourage healthier lifestyles and behaviors. Flat out – we physically feel better and can add years to our lives!
Social engagement is associated with better cognitive function and a reduced risk of cognitive decline as we age. Conversations and interactions stimulate the brain and keep it active. Not to mention the tons of benefits hugging a friend ha
Connections with other humans provide a vital support system when we are stressed or facing adversity. Friends and family offer comfort, advice, and practical aid, helping us navigate challenging situations. This also gives us a sense of belonging!
Interacting with diverse groups of people exposes us to new ideas, perspectives, and experiences. This can lead to personal growth, learning, and increased empathy and understanding.
So, suck up that anxiety, get out the door, and put yourself back out there. Phone a friend for coffee, sell that product you’re paid to promote, and do ‘all the things’ to keep your social life in check.
